Better Movers make Better Lovers.
by Sylvie Manaigre
That’s right, ‘Better Movers’ make better lovers too!
‘Better Movers’ are committed to a growth mindset, and practice behaviors that not only help them move better, feel better, and perform better, but also LOVE better.
Many of the thoughts and behaviors that prevent us from moving better are the same ones that hold us back from loving better. When you think of a ‘better lover’, do you think of someone who is distracted, tired, close-minded, self-unaware, and weak? Someone who has poor control of their body, or do you think of someone who is present, curious, full of energy, with a great range of motion, muscle endurance, and a higher pain threshold?
CONTROL YOURSELF- Just like during Kinstretch® – The slower you go, the more control you show.
Better movers practice self-control on a daily basis. Partners with higher self-control are more able to respond in constructive ways to their partners, and the more self-control couples have, the higher their relationship quality tends to be.
Better Movers explore new ways to stimulate their partner outside of the bedroom!
Better movers dedicate at least 20 mins to mindset training. This can be time to read, do a puzzle, learn, teach, meditate, etc… They take pleasure in both giving and receiving. They don’t wait to take action, but they let things unfold at their natural pace.
USING THE MOVE BETTER METHOD TO BE A BETTER LOVER
“Ready, ‘P.S.E.T.’, Love Better!” Better Mover tips for the bedroom 😉
- Prioritize. We’re clear about what we’re trying to achieve and we prioritize that. Connection but also… orgasms (duh!) we can’t make love or a baby without one.
- Schedule 8 hours of sleep a day. – Sleeping less than 8 hours a day can negatively affect our mood and our energy. Sleep deprivation also reduces glucose levels, which adversely affects self-control.
- Eliminate Distractions.Set boundaries. The bedroom is for sleeping, loving, and mindset training only. – Remove all the other distractions (work, TV, phones, computers)
- Test/assess – Spice things up. Have a way of regularly creating sparks, checking in with your partner, and testing your mobility gains. McDreamy and I have frequent ‘Spontaneous Love Outbursts’. I’ll spare you the details, but use your imagination, it’s really silly and physical (definitely not as kinky as you probably imagine) it’s fun, always makes us laugh, and keeps us moving and loving better!
We challenge you to come up with your own version of ‘Spontaneous Love Outbursts’. A funny, physical act that you perform at random to keeps you and your partner moving and loving better.
I’m going to close off with the BEST reason Better Movers make ‘Better Lovers’…
Because Better Lovers also make Better Movers!
Many studies have shown that people in loving relationships (lovers, friends or family, or even support from a pet) have lower levels of stress hormones, are healthier, live longer, have stronger immune systems, and heal quicker than those with less love and support.
“People involved in loving, philia-based relationships have [fewer] doctor visits, shorter hospital visits, have less pain, and have more positive emotions,” Kirtly Parker Jones, MD,
Better Movers make better lovers, and better lovers make better movers… That’s a pretty sweet loop!
*References:
(Vohs, Finkenauer, & Baumeister, 2011)
- (Gailliot & Baumeister, 2007)
- https://healthcare.utah.edu/healthfeed/postings/2017/02/relationships.php#:~:text=Yes%2C%20loving%20relationships%20make%20us,It’s%20good%20for%20you.